What Makes You a Good Girlfriend? What Could You Do Better?

Over at the The FlyGuy Chronicles, there's a post on what makes a good girlfriend. I'd like to think I'm a good girlfriend, but I have some different reasons. Here's what I think makes a good girlfriend. These are the traits that I honestly follow.

1) Affection: I am extremely affectionate to Mister. I adore him and I honestly still get flutters when I see him. Yeah, David Beckham is cute, but to me, my baby is finer than any of those dudes. Especially when he has that rugged beard growing. GRRRRR!

2) Sex on tap: I'm always ready. He gets my engine running after all this time and I only want him dipping into the cookie jar for a treat. I'm not even interested in anybody else sexually. The thought of someone else is unfathomable, never mind gross.

3) Domestic Diva: I keep the house orderly, clean and I cook. He cooks too, but I cook most of the time and I truly like cooking for him. I like to make his tummy happy.

4) His ace: When times have gotten rough for him, I've come through. Many times my heart was breaking, but I came through because I love him. There is no other options.

5) My BFF: I honestly consider my baby to be like my best friend. Now, the good thing is that I don't see him as so much of a best friend as my homegirls, because if I did, we'd probably on the wrong track, but I see him as someone who is my ace and I hope, I know he sees me as his ace. He knows I'll fight for him if necessary. Ain't no one hitting my baby without me jumping in to whoop that ass.

What I Could Work On:

1) Man Stuff: I'm a product of a divorce and my dad took the coward's way out and left me high and dry. I am learning to let go and let him be a man. I'm fiercely independent and usually I have been raised to believe that it should just be me, myself and I. I am learning that it's okay to let him do things. I honestly felt that guys would appreciate my rugged independence, but men still like to feel like they are that rock. I can be a rock too, but I need to let him be a rock.

2) Take a Chill Pill: By nature, I am goal-oriented and will be very disciplined to the point of rigidity to get to those goals. Mister is more laid back. I used to get upset when he didn't show that same drive that I had. I know now that he is who he is, and is an adult. There will be repercussions for some of his actions, as he has seen already, if he is not on the ball as fast, but it doesn't mean that I need to create another me.

3) Let it go: There were some things that he did in the beginning that were hard to swallow, like keep communications with other folks on Myspace at the start of our relationship. I am learning to leave that at that and realize that I wasn't a saint either. I was separated, but my divorce wasn't final. In fairness to him, he was left wondering if he was just a rebound and got his ducks in order.

4) Realize the compliments are for real: So I ate too much pumpkin pie at Thanksgiving and am feeling a little fat. He says that it's nothing to worry about and he doesn't even notice the bazillion pounds I swear I put on. Instead of discounting what he says, and saying, "Oh! You're just saying that!" I should believe that he is sincere. I realize that it's screwed up to have him be honest and have me question that.

5) We have what we have: Sometimes I'll read some piece by some blogger and start panicking at why Mister doesn't do that. Then I start wondering if it's because I'm not good enough. I am learning that the fantasy we have in our heads is not always realistic. Mister is not like the fantasy that I had in my head, and that's okay. I prefer the real thing anyway. There's just something about how imperfect he is compared to my fantasy that makes him so lovable and worthy.

I'll actually be writing about the contrasts between the fantasy I used to have and my real life Prince Charming in an upcoming post!

Thoughts! What makes you a good girlfriend? What could make you better?