Why Would You Want To Take Someone Else's Man?

Blogxilla recently posted tips on how to keep/take someone else's boo and I had to ask why would anyone want to take someone else's man?

I am no angel, I did it in high school. Hell, I even wanted to do it as an adult, and I even pushed along a break up. I guess I'd weigh the scenarios first by detailing my situations.

In high school I did it because me and my homegirl were feuding. But it went deeper than that. Her boyfriend Mike* and I were the victims of some "Cruel Intentions" type drama that was going down. It was crazy! My boyfriend was stepping out on me with a chick who was supposed to be my ace and my homegirl was stepping out on Mike. We were both victims and what do victims tend to do? They bond over the very thing that victimized them. Our attraction sprung overnight it seemed and we had a passionate and fun relationship until he got his head up his ass and I met my ex-husband.

My current man, Mister, was not quite me taking another chick's man, but kind of. He had been seeing a chick that was stepping out on him. I understand not wanting to be alone so I kind of see why he took his time to break it off. That is hard to do. We had struck up a friendship, we were both attracted to each other. When I found out a few months earlier that he was dating that chick, I left it alone. I knew that it would've been easy to take him away from her because, while she was easy to smash, she didn't know how to keep him by being an unfaithful, self-centered harpy. I played my position because I knew she would screw up and that she did. He was a hair away from breaking up with her but just needed to hear it from someone else. I saw my opportunity, went for it and was there to comfort him. We've been together for just two to three months short of three years, his longest relationship to date, and my second longest.

I do not regret for a second what I did with Mister. I don't even think she was hurt by losing him. She was more upset that someone rejected her rotten ass in the face of her inability to be anything but selfish and immature. I genuinely didn't want to see him hurt or sad and I figured even if we end up just being friends, it's okay. I guess I just really liked him and his personality. Part of me wanted to help, but most of me really wanted to treat him the way he deserved to be treated. Besides, girls like that for me ain't about a damned thing. She had a good dude and she was out there chasing attention from men on Myspace. Attention whores grate on my nerves.

Did I want to conquer a former conquest once we met again in the past? Yes. It made me an asshole to be honest and it's something that I'm glad never got anywhere because in hindsight it wouldn't have worked.

There are so many extenuating circumstances to the situation. If you meet a guy whose on the last legs of a relationship who is being treated like crap and hates life everyday because of a cheating or hurtful mate, and he's a good guy, can I fault anyone for wanting to rescue him? No. Especially if you know you could make him happy. You get into murky territory when the circumstances of his unhappiness, real or perceived, are blurred, especially by you.

Is he pissy because his girlfriend or wife won't let him be a loser or walk all over her? If so, then don't engage. That's an immature guy that wants it easy. If it's a proven fact that she's cheating, abusing him or his kids, etc. then I say just be there for him and be the person he can run to. Let the dice roll where they may and if it's meant to be, it's meant to be. God works in mysterious ways, His matchmaking skills are no different.

Is it ever okay to take someone else's man? Thoughts?